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The Four Agreements: Don’t Make Assumptions, Part 3 – Sharyn Nichols

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August 31, 2026 by *Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols

In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn concludes the three-part exploration of the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements: Don’t Make Assumptions.

This episode focuses on the daily practice of living with more clarity, emotional maturity, and tolerance for uncertainty. Sharyn explores how assumptions show up not only in relationships, but also in the way we judge ourselves, predict the future, and interpret our own healing journey.

Listeners are guided through practical tools for separating facts from stories, asking direct questions, tolerating not knowing, and replacing fear-based assumptions with grounded truth. This episode is a compassionate reminder that peace often begins when we stop treating our guesses as facts.

5 Key Takeaways

The goal is not to never make assumptions. The practice is to notice when you are assuming and choose clarity over fear.
Separate what you know from the story you created. Ask yourself what is actually true, then identify what meaning you added on top of it.
Ask direct questions instead of filling in the blanks. Clarifying what someone meant can interrupt anxiety, resentment, and the stories your mind creates.
Learn to tolerate not knowing. You do not have to fill uncertainty with your worst fear; sometimes the most honest answer is simply, “I do not know yet.”
Pause, name it, check, and choose. Notice the assumption, identify what you actually know, decide what you can ask, and then choose whether to wait, clarify, soothe yourself, or speak directly.

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~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~

Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace.

Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you’re ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what’s truly possible.

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