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The Four Agreements: Don’t Make Assumptions, Part 2 – Sharyn Nichols

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August 24, 2026 by *Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols

In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn continues the Third Agreement from The Four Agreements: Don’t Make Assumptions.

This episode focuses on how assumptions quietly create conflict in relationships. From assuming we know what someone meant, to assuming others should know what we need, to turning one moment into a fixed story about someone’s character, assumptions can create distance, resentment, and misunderstanding.

Through relatable examples and therapeutic reflection, this episode invites listeners to practice asking direct, gentle questions instead of reacting to unverified stories. It is a reminder that clarity is often more loving than certainty, and that many relationship conflicts soften when we are brave enough to ask instead of assume.

5 Key Takeaways

Assumptions can do serious damage in relationships. Conflict begins when we respond to the meaning we assigned instead of what the other person actually meant.
Our wounds can translate neutral words into painful meanings. Pause long enough to separate what was actually said from the story you created about it.
People cannot read your mind—even when they love you. Clearly communicating what you need gives the relationship a better chance than hinting, hoping, testing, or expecting.
Hidden tests create hidden resentment. Instead of testing whether someone cares, bring your needs into the open and give them the opportunity to respond.
Don’t treat unverified guesses as confirmed truth. Stay curious and communicate directly while still recognizing genuine patterns, red flags, and repeated behavior.

Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are

Author Sharyn Nichols

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~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~

Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace.

Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you’re ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what’s truly possible.

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